Do We Have to Mediate in the Same Room?

Mediation is designed to be flexible, and how you participate is just one example of that. 

It can be in-person or online. 

Together in the same room or in totally separate rooms. 

This level of choice is especially important when the parties cannot have direct contact due to legal restrictions or when being in the same space simply doesn’t feel safe or productive. What matters most is selecting a mediation approach that feels comfortable and supports a respectful, productive negotiation process.

Virtual or In-Person Family Mediation 

Just like many other services in the post-COVID era, family mediation in Ontario has fully embraced virtual options. Many separating or divorcing couples now choose to negotiate parenting plans, support, and other matters through secure online platforms rather than meeting face-to-face.

Virtual mediation often reduces stress and limits potential conflict because it allows each party to participate from a space where they feel safe and at ease.

That said, in-person mediation remains a strong option for anyone who prefers to meet onsite. Many families appreciate the structure and personal connection that in-person family mediation can offer.

Joint Sessions vs. Shuttle Mediation

Whether virtual or in-person, parties also get to decide whether they will mediate in the same room or in two separate rooms, with the latter option known as “shuttle mediation.”

In shuttle mediation, the mediator moves between the two parties, sharing proposals and helping guide the conversation without requiring direct communication between participants.

This approach is especially effective in situations where communication tends to escalate into conflict, when a power imbalance needs to be managed, or when one or both parties feel uncomfortable negotiating face-to-face.

Shuttle mediation allows both parties to fully participate while maintaining a sense of privacy and control.

The Benefits of Family Mediation in Ontario

No matter how you structure it, family mediation gives Ontario families the freedom to design a process that aligns with their comfort level and unique situation.

By putting families in charge of their negotiating parameters, mediation sets the stage for productive conversations and creates an environment that works for everyone.